The Crazy Ex

The Ex. I don’t care if you are an ex-girlfriend/boyfriend, ex-lover, ex-FWB, ex-fling, ex-partner, or an ex-make out. The main take away in all of that is that they are an ex of something, of some kind, for some reason! They are the ex, not you! It means that they are a thing of the past while you, my lovely friend, are the fucking present and who knows maybe the future! However, what do we do when we encounter that crazy ex? You all know exactly what I’m talking about. That ex who lives to cause drama, stir things up, create fights, and loves to insert themselves into your present relationship.

All. The. God. Damn. Time.

So how do we deal with this Ex?

Well, I can assure that dealing with this ex is not fun. (Dealing with any ex is seldom an easy task, ever) But the crazy ex is like a reoccurring bad dream. Just when you think it is over, BAM! The nightmare starts right the fuck up again. The constant calling, texting, Snapchatting, Snapmap stalking, and insta-stalking is enough to drive you and your partner insane yourself! I can only share from my own experiences, but here are a few things to keep in mind.

1. This is not a person to be jealous of or threatened by. Remind yourself that you have something this person lacked making you the now and them the past! You are a kick-ass individual, do not doubt that.
2. Do not stoop down to their level. Be the bigger person, always. Boom! Take the high road. Being caddy and petty gets you nowhere.
3. Do not lash out at your partner. It is not their fault that this person is acting insane and behaving completely inappropriately. Although you might be tempted to blame them for ever having this psychopath in their life, you can’t. You can not control someone else’s actions only your reactions to them.
4. Live your life. Do not waste your time and energy obsessing about this person. They are not worth it. Focus on bettering yourself and your relationship. Stay Happy! Nothing rattles a crazy ex more than knowing you don’t give a shit.
5. You can’t argue with crazy. No matter what you say and do, this person will look for a way to fault you or make you feel horrible. Crazy is crazy. You can not change that. So do not waste your breath trying.

My point being, you are the current. They are the ex. That alone speaks volumes. Yes, they might make things difficult from time to time but you just need to laugh it off, move along with your day, and remember that no matter what you do now (during this relationship or after it) you will never be as crazy as that crazy ex!