The Crazy Ex 2.0

**You guys ask for it and I am happy to write it for you. So here it is! enjoy! ❤️❤️ – Nikki J

Honestly, I wont pretend that I have dealt with and handled the crazy Ex all in the best way or with the utmost class all the time. I have learned some tough lessons in these trying times but the point is I am learning. Truth is, i’m still figuring out how to manage, how to feel, and how to work through it all. What I can give you is a list of things not to do or avoid if you can manage.

1. Replying to a snapchat that wasn’t for you, with a selfie of you and a time stamp on it isn’t a good idea. You know, you would think that I would have learned my lesson from the first time I did this (three years ago) but no. This happened again in recent weeks. Oops! Yes, this move was petty and I do not recommend it
2. Stalking their social media like a pyshcopath is a no go! This does not help anything. MUTE, DELETE, BLOCK! Do what you got to do to keep yourself sane. I can assure you that constantly seeing their face online won’t do it.
3. Telling your partner that you’re fine when you aren’t. Nope. This is going to catch up with you and when it does you WILL explode. (At least this is what happened to me) I was fine, everything was fine, I didn’t care, I was unaffected by it, I could handle it, Up until the day I completely lost my mind. I am talking full meltdown took place with an outrageous amount of ugly crying. Certainly not my finest moment but hey, everyone has a breaking point. I hit mine, hard!
4. Do not contact the Ex yourself. (DISCLAIMER: DONE THIS MORE THEN ONCE!) Even if it’s just to be kind and figure out what the hell is up lol (typical of me! I’m way too curious) This has its draw backs ladies and gents. Regardless of how you approach it, you can be kind and respectful or a total bitch about it but the outcome is the same.  You get a ton of new information that you never anticipated hearing. Some of which you maybe knew before and some that you didn’t. That information can be damaging to your relationship. Then to make it worse, you keep this information to yourself. So very very very bad. I repeat. VERY BAD! You end up looking sketchy as fuck to your partner when it all comes out, and it will!
5. Do not read the messages. This is a tough one. I know it has been a hard one for me in the past as well as for my friends. The message your partner gets from the Crazy Ex will without a doubt upset you. Doesn’t matter if it’s an “I miss you” or “do you remember this?” or the inevitable text that trashes you the “new person”. Just trust me on this, what you read will hurt you. So protect that fragile heart of yours and just stop reading what is being said. Ignorance is blissful in this situation.
6. Do Not Trash them. No matter how badly you may want to and If you don’t feel like you want to, then you have to be a damn saint. So Just leave it be. Nothing you say will change what is happening and honestly, you are better then that. Cutting someone else down only reflects poorly on the person you are, and let face it, you are pretty awesome so why ruin that?

On a finalnote. Stop talking about them all together just go out there and live your best life. If I have one take away from this, it is that you can’t control what others say and do. So focus on yourself, your relationship, and hope to god that you don’t run into the Crazy Ex anytime soon 😉 !!